It’s a Sunday afternoon and I’m just now starting to write tomorrow’s article.
I started the blog almost 5 months ago and a lot has happened since then.
The blog has introduced me to wonderful people who have been a joy to know.
I met Stella who lives in the Netherlands and was responsible for my most popular blog post so far. She’s an admin in a Facebook group (Kenyan Women in Diaspora) I love and we’ve become fast friends. We Skype all the time and I remember after breaking up with my recent ex I talked to her and after explaining the whole situation, she just said “ Sweetie, there’s no question we are breaking up with this guy. What I’ve learnt in love is that the right relationship should not be a struggle. “ I never forgot how quickly she said that and the whole breaking up situation became much easier to deal with. Stella is positive, supportive and helpful and I totally love her.
I’ve met Julia Qui who lives in Sydney, is a fashion designer and about to open her own blog. We Skype a lot too discussing setting up her blog and other things. She’s a young, beautiful woman who’s going places.
I also email a lot with the girl responsible for the mkenyaujerumani blog. I’ve written an article for her and people always tell me they found my blog through her blog.
I’ve met Akinyi Yimbo who’s this intelligent writer in Germany. Akinyi is always posting cute pictures of kitties and bunnies on my facebook page ……
I met Polyn a Kenyan who lives in my city who’s currently on vacation in Kenya. I met Timothy Muruga, a young man in Kenya who has helped me tackle some nightmarish IT issues.
Big shout out to all my new friends!
My new virtues.
When you start the blog out you don’t really understand that you are a part of the 5 million websites on the internet all asking for attention. And you see all the stats of people who just gave up and you still don’t get it but pretty soon the reality of it dawns on you. If you want to learn patience, perseverance and the discipline to show up as you said you would, start a blog.
I’ve been known to take short cuts and one of them was regarding my weight. As long as I looked fairly slim on the outside I really did not care about how I got that way. That was until I went to a nutritionist in Kenya who told me I was very unhealthy and my body was made up of a lot more fat than muscle.
Well, something from the running the blog must have rubbed off on me coz I now go to the gym religiously since March and have changed the way I eat. I have never been this committed he he he. So I do have the blog to thank for making me hotterrrr he he he.
Having a blog needs one to be courageous. That’s coz you are so unsure of what lies ahead of you, so unsure if your next move is wrong or right. You WILL make mistakes’ but you have to go on. It’s like walking with a blind fold across a corridor and at the end of the corridor lays some kind of treasure…actually you don’t even know what you will get at the end of the corridor.
I’ve become fearless. Since January, I email all kinds of people, I’ve emailed Ngugi Wa Thiongo, Lupita Nyong’o’s management team, Brendon Burchards’ team, Michael Hyatt’s team, the creative writing department at New York University, wrote and submitted guest posts to some big blogs….it’s insane. The most anyone can do is not answer my email and most of them have!!!
I’ve also become militant about managing my time. I’m either writing or learning all the one million things I have to learn about blogging or I’m in the gym. I watch TV only after I’m exhausted from working. My life sucks:)
I found my passion and it’s not all fun and games.
My past educational and work background has been in human resources. At this stage of the game the chances of me going back to HR are getting slimmer and slimmer. We will see.
This whole writing thing has been the weirdest thing ever.
First you feel a pull to a certain direction. A weird pull from a source greater than you. Then you learn to listen to your gut instincts a lot. Your instincts are your only guide on this journey to somewhere. They curve a path for you and of shine a light on your path to wherever it is your’e going? I told you this is weird stuff!
I was watching a YouTube video where Oprah was interviewing this lady and asking her “How do you know you’ve found your purpose in life?” And the lady said, “When you do not betray yourself anymore. When it feels right.”
It is very strange to embark on a new career now at the age of 32 (ahem, ahem) but the odds are stacked against HR at the moment. It seems foolish, it is foolish but it’s only I who gets this kind of foolish.
Finding your passion plays havoc on your love life.
I’ve always dated handsome men. I think I’m vain or something. I just do not know how I do it. I am a little boy crazy…I must confess.
So I was dating this Swedish/Greek man for 6 months and we broke up the other day. He was not treating me well and when I thought of whether I should break up with him or not his biggest crime was he did not read my blog. He also bought me some really cheap perfume for my birthday something from a brand called Bruno Banani. When I got my Bruno Banani I spoke to my BFF Jillian on What’s up and was like “Who is Bruno Banani?” (in a state of panic)
My favorite perfume for years is Light Blue by Dolce and Gabbana and all of a sudden I have to start using Bruno Banani?
OK the guy and I could not agree on a million things it was just not the perfume…LOL had to make you laugh.
Then the other day I met this sublimely handsome man. I took his number and did not give him mine. Can you believe I have not called him back weeks later. It’s unheard of. There is something clearly wrong with me.
I told you something weird is going on in my life. I could meet the hottest man right now and if he did not have a passion or get what is going on with me all he would be saying is “bla, bla and bla.”
You enter the crazy zone when you find your passion.
You can’t stop doing it. You no longer fit in with your friends or share their goals. You don’t tell people what your goals are because they sound cuckoo and absurd. You keep quiet, smile and pretend that you are trying to achieve the appropriately normal goals everyone is aiming for.
It is a lonely and strange existence and yet it feels right.
My friend Nick Klaus wrote something on his FB wall yesterday,
‘All artists are mad! The difference is they are mad at different degrees. Their Individualism is so strong it’s either looked upon as total madness, mysterious, genius or complete morons. The weird part they have an universal silent language that no one else understands.’
Yeah, I’m officially really crazy now.
All people who have read The Alchemist and been profoundly affected by it are a little strange. The last person who spoke of this book changing his life is Pharell Williams who is mega superstar.
And here I am broke, I have less than 300 likes on my Facebook page and I’m just starting out my writing journey. Pharell Williams?? NOT.
I love and hate the blog.
Blogging is the ultimate roller coaster ride. Defining exactly what your audience will love is a science I have not mastered.
Sometimes you pour your heart and soul in an article and no one loves it, and sometimes you really just don’t put that much of an effort and it’s a hit. I’ve trained myself to not attach a lot of emotion into not getting the results I want this exact moment.
But there are things I’ve conceded defeat in ….
I wasn’t good at many aspects of blogging when I first started this blog like all the technical things you have to master. I’m still not good at them, I actually gave it my best shot and I have given up. The tech stuff is never ending and it just gives me the best headaches. I have conceded defeat, let write my first book now.
Thanks for coming on this journey with me!!!